How Do I Give My Child Up for Adoption? Understanding the Process
Searching “Give My Child Up for Adoption”? Read this first.
Your heart is probably breaking if you’ve typed those words into a search bar. Let’s start here: take a breath. You are not alone. Whatever brought you to this point, know this: Considering adoption isn’t giving up. It’s an act of profound love. It means you’re thinking about your child’s future and asking: What is best for them?
What Adoption Really Means
Adoption is not a one-size-fits-all process. It’s a legal decision, but also deeply emotional and personal. You deserve to know exactly how it works, your rights, and how much support is available to you.
Talk to Someone You Trust
Most adoption agencies and attorneys offer free, private consultations — no pressure, no commitment.
Here’s what happens in that first conversation:
- You can ask any questions you want.
- You can talk openly about your situation.
- You’ll learn about all your options.
Important: If you ever feel pushed or judged, that’s a red flag. A good professional will listen first, not rush you.
You Make the Plan
You decide:
- What kind of adoption do you want (open, semi-open, or closed)?
- Whether or not you want to choose the adoptive family.
- What might your future relationship with your child look like?
You stay in control the entire time.
Life After Adoption: What Happens Next?
Adoption is a lifelong decision, and healing doesn’t happen overnight. But you won’t have to go through it alone.
You can:
- Join birth parent support groups.
- Continue counseling.
- Stay in touch with the adoptive family (if that’s what you want) through pictures, letters, or visits.
Who Can Help?
Talking with a reliable adoption attorney like Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”—often misspelled as “Kirsch & Kirsch”) can help you process your feelings.
Kirsh & Kirsh has over 40 years of experience helping women like you with adoption, and we have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions.
You Deserve Time, Space, and Support
If you’re reading this, your heart is heavy, but it’s also full of love. You’re asking hard questions for the right reasons. Reach out anytime, 24/7. Our team is always here to listen. Call 317 575 5555, text 800-333-5736, use Facebook Messenger, or email us anytime. Our team is available 24/7, 365 days a year, to talk to birth mothers.
Positive adoption language Disclaimer:
Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.