I am Pregnant, Not Ready for a Baby, and Don’t Know What to Do
Finding out that you have an unplanned pregnancy, unintended pregnancy, untimely pregnancy, or unwanted pregnancy probably took your breath away when you first found out. However, many of us let our minds jump to the worst possible outcome whenever we worry. Usually, the “worst” does not happen, and often, the best solution is not the one that most immediately makes our worries go away.
What you ultimately decide is entirely up to you, and you will be the one most impacted by your decision, although as a pregnant woman, your decision is complicated by the human life you have conceived. The two conclusions that immediately come to mind are parenting the child or aborting it. Obviously, both have long-term consequences for both you and the unborn baby. Therefore, you should not only consider what to do now but how the consequences of what you do now will affect the rest of your life.
An alternative to a situation like yours that does often come to mind is adoption. Before dismissing that idea, you might want to think of the potential benefits to you and your unborn baby, including:
- Knowing that you have given your baby a chance for a bright future, in which he or she has the chance to pursue their full potential – maybe your child will be the person who finds the cure for cancer – who knows, but maybe.
- Knowing that you have done something “God-like” for the adoptive parents – given them a child.
- Knowing that you have put the needs of others ahead of your own needs and feelings.
However, putting a child up for adoption — or, more correctly, making an adoption plan — is not all rainbows and roses. It will be the hardest decision you ever make – a decision few people have the strength and fortitude to make.
If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, you should contact us. We at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called — Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant) pride ourselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.
Not only do the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions, Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, North Vernon or Bloomington, Madison or Vincennes, Gary or South Bend, Auburn or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.
There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.
You can call, text, and or email us anytime — call: 317-575-5555, text: 800-333-5736, contact us, or send a Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.