I Don’t Want To Be Pregnant. If I Can’t Get An Abortion, What Can I Do?

Let’s start with two obvious facts: (1) Nothing will undo the fact that you are pregnant, and (2) you will give birth to a baby. What has happened has already happened. None of us can change the past. As the expression goes, “You can’t unring the bell.” If you are not happy about being pregnant and not prepared to raise a child, think about how to make the best of what you consider a bad situation. More importantly, you are now responsible for the life of an innocent child, and you need to make the best decision for him or her. 

For most women facing an unplanned pregnancy or untimely pregnancy, they intentionally or unintentionally (by not making other plans) decide to parent the child. In many, perhaps, most situations that decision serves the best interest interests of the mother and child. Even if those women did not plan to get pregnant, they successfully take on the challenge of parenting a child for the rest of their lives and do well at it. 

However, not everyone has the resources, skill, and desire to dedicate their lives to the responsibility of raising a child. For those women, they need to look at other alternatives. Some will find that their parents will happily, or out of a sense of obligation to a grandchild, assume responsibility for raising the child. 

Another alternative, which does not get nearly enough attention, is to give the baby up for adoption, or, more correctly, to make an adoption plan for the child. As previously, stated nothing will change the fact of the pregnancy, but giving a newborn the gift of a loving, happy, secure home and bright future and adoptive parents, who desperately want a child, the gift of parenthood may just be the best way to turn a negative situation into the best outcome for all involved, including the birth mother. Not often can any of us change the lives of others in a meaningful way. To give a child the opportunity for a productive happy life and adoptive parents a child to love and nurture is a close to God-like as anything one human can do for another. 

If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C.  — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. 

Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Beech Grove or Indianapolis, Southport or Bargersville, Evansville or Franklin, South Bend or Hammond, Jeffersonville or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, or Michigan.

There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices which family adopts your baby & extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth.

You can call, text and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, contact us, or Facebook message. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.

POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER:  Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans.  Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”.  If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.