I Took My Baby Home and Now I Am Considering Adoption. It Is Not Too Late.

By: Grant Kirsh

If you brought your baby home from the hospital planning to parent, and now you are lying awake wondering how to give up your baby for adoption, we want you to know three things right away.

It is not too late. You are not a bad mother. And we know exactly how to help, because we help mothers in your situation all the time.

At Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., a family-run Indiana adoption law firm with nearly 50 years of experience and over 110 years of combined legal experience, this is one of the most common calls we receive right now. This post is for you.

What Happened Is Not Your Fault

Here is the pattern we see over and over. During pregnancy, you had every intention of making it work. Making an adoption plan while you are pregnant is a very difficult thing to do. You were hopeful. People around you made promises. Your mom said she would babysit. Your friends said they would be there. Maybe the father said he would step up.

Then you got home with your baby, and reality set in. The promises turned out to be empty and shallow. The help never came. And now it is the middle of the night, you are exhausted beyond words, and there is a crying baby in the other room who needs you to care for them.

You were set up with false hope. That is not your fault. Wanting a better life for your baby than you can provide right now is not failure. It is love.

This Is a New Trend, and We Have Adapted

You are not the only one. This is a real shift happening all across Indiana, and we have adjusted how we work because of it.

In the past, placing a baby for adoption after taking the baby home was considered a hard thing to do. That has changed. There are things we can do to make it easier, and we have completed many of these placements in the last six months alone. We know how to do it the right way, step by step, so that you are protected and your baby lands softly with a wonderful family.

The process looks a lot like a newborn adoption. You review profiles from our more than 100 carefully screened waiting families. You choose the family that feels right. You decide how much ongoing contact you want, and all of our families commit to letters and photos for at least 18 years at minimum. Our services remain 100% free to you.

The One Thing That Matters Most: Call Sooner Rather Than Later

Time is of the essence. The sooner you contact us, the more options we have and the easier we can make this for you. Every week that passes can add complexity, especially around the father and paternity.

Speaking of the father, his situation is the most important legal question, and we will look at it honestly. If he has not legally established paternity through a court or a signed paternity affidavit, the path is usually clear. If he has, we will give you a straight answer about your specific situation. Do not assume the door is closed before we have talked. In many situations it is wide open.

Calling does not commit you to anything. It just gives you real information so you can decide with clear eyes.

No Judgment. Ever.

Some mothers tell us they were afraid to call because they thought we would judge them for changing their mind after birth. Please hear this: we will not. We understand exactly how this happens, because we have walked through it with many mothers just in the past six months. Our office is a judgment free zone. The Kirsh family strives to help every woman feel like part of our family, not like a case file.

Whether you are in Indianapolis, Fort Wayne, Evansville, South Bend, Carmel, Fishers, Bloomington, Hammond, Gary, Muncie, Lafayette, Terre Haute, Kokomo, Anderson, or Greenwood, we answer our phones 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Call us right now if you need to. We will pick up.

Call or text us at 800-333-5736. Visit us at IndianaAdoption.com. Everything is free and confidential.

For a complete overview of your options, read our guide: Your Options With an Unplanned Pregnancy in Indiana.

About the Author
Grant Kirsh is a second-generation adoption attorney and owner of Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., a family law firm in Indianapolis, Indiana that has been serving Indiana families since 1981. Grant graduated from Indiana University McKinney School of Law in 2013 and has personally handled nearly 3,000 foster care adoptions and his law firm has handled over 5,000 private newborn adoptions. He practices all forms of domestic adoption, with a deep personal commitment to expectant mothers considering adoption in Indiana and Indiana’s foster care system and the families and children it serves.