If you want to visit your child after you give your baby up for adoption or, more correctly, make an adoption plan for your baby, ask yourself this question: Do I want to see the child because I want to be a part of the child’s life or do I just want to see for myself that my child is okay?
If your reason for wanting visits is to remain a part of the child’s life, you should reconsider whether adoption is in your best interests and the best interests of your child. It is highly unlikely that you will have a meaningful enough relationship with the child to satisfy your need to remain a part of the child’s life, and you should be cautious of a local adoption agency, national adoption agency, or adoption facilitator who makes that promise to you. As a legal matter, adoption terminates the parental rights of the birth parents.
On the other hand, if your desire to visit the child is to see for yourself that the child is doing well, you might want to consider whether photos, letters, and even videos might satisfy your needs. We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, PC (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) have insisted that adoptive parents provide updates to their birth parents, and with few exceptions, this arrangement has worked out well for all concerned. We advise adoptive parents to honestly assess what they will feel comfortable doing in regard to updates – that way, birth parents are never disappointed if the adoptive parents under-promise and over-deliver when agreeing to provide letters and photographs.
If you would like to explore adoption, we, at Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.
The four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. In most situations, we can provide you with as many profiles of prospective adoptive parents as you would like to receive. All of our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Danville or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Martinsville, Jasper or Evansville, Munster or South Bend, Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.
There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of family options from which you can choose, all of whom are wonderful, carefully screened, loving families FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contact you want after the child’s birth.
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POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.