Pregnant and Considering Adoption: How to Select an Adoptive Family

One of the biggest worries women have when pregnant and considering adoption is simple: 

• Will anyone want my baby? 

Right behind that question comes another: 

• If I choose adoption, do I get to decide who raises my child? 

The answer to both questions is reassuring. 

Yes, there are families who would love to adopt your baby. In fact, there are far more hopeful adoptive parents than there are babies available for adoption. And yes, in a private Indiana adoption, you choose the family. 

Adoption is a big decision, but you do not have to make it by yourself. 

Since 1981, adoption attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (sometimes misspelled “Kirsch & Kirsch”) have supported birth mothers with compassion, clarity, and respect. With more than 110+ years of combined adoption law experience, handling adoptions in Indiana and throughout the country, we help you understand your options.  

As a family-run firm, we understand that this is more than a legal process; it’s a deeply personal journey. There is no cost regardless of what decision you ultimately make.  

You Get to Choose the Family 

One of the most empowering parts of adoption is that you are in control of this decision. You will review profiles of waiting families. These profiles include photos, personal letters, and information about their lives, values, and hopes for the future. 

Take your time. Ask questions. If you would like, you can even meet them in person before making a decision. 

Trust Yourself 

When choosing a family, pay attention to how you feel. Do their photos make you smile? Do their values match what you want for your child? Can you picture your child growing up in their home? 

All of the families we work with have been carefully screened. There is no perfect choice, only the choice that feels right to you. 

Build an Adoption Plan Around Your Wishes  

If you decide adoption is the best choice, you can create a plan that reflects your goals, values, and level of comfort.  Modern adoption offers flexibility, allowing you to make important decisions about your child’s future.  

You may choose:  

• The type of adoption relationship you want  

• The amount of contact you would like after placement  

• Your hospital and birth preferences  

• The adoptive family you would like to raise your child  

Your adoption plan is designed around your preferences and what matters most to you.  

You Are Never Alone 

Call 317-575-5555, text: 800-333-5736, message us on Facebook Messenger, or email us anytime. Ask questions. Learn about your options. Take the time you need.  

Positive adoption language Disclaimer:     

Please understand that these blogs are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for pregnant moms is “How do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “How do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.