Will My Child Hate Me If I Give My Baby Up For Adoption?
This concern occupies the minds of many, if not all, birth parents who consider putting their newborns and older children up for adoption, or more correctly, making an adoption plan for their child/children. It would be hard not to have such thoughts. While a parent may take into consideration their child’s opinion about a decision, a parent MUST make the decision based upon what the parent believes serves the child’s best interests, even if the child may disagree. Effective parenting is not about garnering the child’s approval but doing what the PARENT believes best for the child’s present and future well-being. This is especially true as the magnitude of the decision increases. If a parent occasionally allows their child to have ice cream and cake for dinner instead of a balanced meal because the child prefers ice cream and cake, deferring to the child will not have a long-term impact on the child’s life. But always allowing a child to spend time playing video games instead of doing their homework will have big consequences for the child’s future. A birth mother who believes that an adoptive home will enable her child to enjoy a happy, successful life is CLEARLY a course of action that a birth mother needs to make regardless of what the child may think of the decision at some future time. So, in direct answer to the question posed — your child may not understand why you gave the child up for adoption, but, as a parent you must nevertheless do what YOU believe is best for the child. By the way, it is also quite possible that in the right adoptive home, where you as the birth mother are celebrated for the being the hero that you are, the child may very well come to love you for the decision.
If you would like more information about adoption and available living expenses during and after your pregnancy, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh — or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – would be happy to help. Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment.
At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, the four adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh have over 100 years of combined legal experience arranging adoptions. Kirsh & Kirsh has been in existence since 1981. We know Indiana Adoption Law inside and out. We can find a wonderful home for your baby regardless of your social and medical history. Please be honest with us and do not worry that no one will want your baby. There is always a family waiting to love your child. We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law. You make all the choices about which family adopts your baby and the extent of contacts you want after the child’s birth. Conversely, if you do not wish to choose the family, we will pick the best family on your behalf.
As attorneys, we at Kirsh & Kirsh, have very high standards for the prospective adoptive parents we choose to represent. All our waiting families are carefully screened and thoroughly investigated. We will arrange for you to have contact with the family you choose on your terms, without families trying to reach you at all hours of the day or night.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in West Lafayette or Indianapolis, Mount Vernon or Bloomington, Evansville or New Albany, Munster or South Bend, Goshen or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, Kentucky, Michigan, or Illinois.
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POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.