Adoption Questions: How do I know if I have selected the right family for my baby?
Hi, Steve Kirsh and Yogi here with the answer to today’s adoption question. The question is: “How do I know if I have selected the right family for my baby?”
And the answer is, if you are working with Kirsh & Kirsh, all of the families that we represent are very carefully screened and investigated before we even introduce them to you. So, you know, on a basic level, that they have gone through criminal, child abuse, sexual offender, FBI fingerprint checks. Beyond that, a lot of moms, over the years, have just told me that they just know they have the right family for their babies. It is just a gut feeling they have after meeting with them or just reading their profile. But, you have to find that comfort level.
If you do not love the family that is going to be adopting your baby, you are never going to come to peace with the decision. So, it is important that you don’t settle for just any family, and we have had moms over the years who have said, my neighbor down the street wants to adopt, or my girlfriend knows someone who wants to adopt and I am going to have them adopt. Sometimes that works out great, but, what I always say to moms is that if you could pick any family in the world to adopt your baby, or, as you lay in bed at night dreaming of what the perfect family for your baby would be, is that the family, is your girlfriend’s friend, the family that you would choose?If it is, then go for it. If it is not, then you should look at other families.
It is very important that you find peace with your decision. So, and when you do, I think you will just know. I hope that is helpful. Yogi and I are always here to answers questions. Thank you