The honest answer is “We don’t know.” Some children hate their parents for all kinds of reasons – real and imagined. However, much of how an adoptee feels about adoption will depend on how his or her adoptive parents talk about adoption to the adoptee. An adopted person who grows up in a loving, supportive home, whose adoptive parents recognize and praise the sacrificial love of the birth mother in making an adoption plan will likely NOT harbor ill feelings toward his or her birth parents. Of course, there are no guarantees that a child, born into a family, will not grow up hating his or her parents. A person’s feelings about their parents largely depend on the love and affection of the parents and the life the parents provide the child.
At Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), we require that the adoptive parents whom we represent complete a homestudy by an independent, adoption agency. As part of the homestudy process, any reputable local or national adoption agency will mandate adoption education, including how birth parents LOVE their children, and, because of that love, they make the hardest decision imaginable by proceeding with an adoption. Additionally, the adoptive parents represented by Kirsh & Kirsh desperately want to adopt. In our experience, adoptive parents have faced too many obstacles in having children to ever take their children for granted. They are fully committed to being the best parents they can possibly be and to providing their children a world of opportunities that will allow their children to reach their full potential in a loving, supportive, happy home.
We, at Kirsh & Kirsh – or the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant, pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions – that way, you can make a well-informed decision.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you in finding an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Acadia or Indianapolis, Bloomington or Columbus, Evansville or Sellersburg, or South Bend or Warsaw, Muncie or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.
We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the fullest extent allowed by law.
You can call, text, and or email us anytime -call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.